Cheeeesy. Although I have always believe this, but I have to admit that at times, it’s quite hard for me not to feel upset and down whenever bad things happen. After all, saya hanyalah manusia biasa (typical answer :P)
Every experience in our life, was designed to shape us into the ultimate and greater version of ourselves. But we don’t always have that wisdom and enough patience to see this sooner. We mostly focus on the pain and disappointment instead.
“What doesn’t kill you will make you stronger.
It may also help by trying to be positive. When bad things happens, and we start to have all those bad thoughts, try to pause our thoughts for a while, and think of all the blessings we already have in your life.
Maybe these points can help?
- Release the frustrations.
Channel it out in a good way. Talk to a trusted person, go for a jog or exercise to release it.
- You are not alone.
Believe it. Somewhere around this world, other persons are facing the same difficulties as you. Don’t ever think you are the unluckiest person. This can help you get out of a self-victimizing mindset. Don’t be afraid to seek for help.
- You always have a choice.
Yes, you do. For example, you are not happy with you current work, or your team member annoys you, or your boss doesn’t appreciate you, or a group of people harass you – think for a while that you can always get out of this situation, instead of just keep on complaining and be frustrated towards them. You may not be able to control what happens to you, but you can always control how you behave, or how you decided to act towards them.
- Focus on what you can do.
Instead of asking why, it’s better to ask “What’s the best way to solve this?”. This will trigger your mind to come out with actions — which creates empowerment & possibilities — and in the end creates results. Being frustrated isn’t going to solve anything, action does!
- Have faith.
There’s always a solution to every problems. Even if the result isn’t what you expected, start from there. Time and faith will get you through it, no matter how.
- See obstacle as an advantage.
Turn it to your advantage. The obstacle will eventually makes you stronger, more skillful and more experienced. The end result will put you ahead from where you were, which means that you actually benefited from the experience.
- Identify the lesson learned.
There are always something you can learn from any situation. In any case, you will probably do it better and faster than you did the last time.
“Someday, everything will make perfect sense. So for now, laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears, and keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason.
p/s: It’s always easier said than done. But we must at least try!! ^^